This could get mildly interesting

I’ve never used online dating services and have no honest desire to do so now, but earlier today I impulsively created a profile on one of the more popular ones, just because the sun had risen in the east and I was therefore feeling a bit manic and mischievous. Here is how I described myself:

I’ve never tried online dating before, but I am assuredly the antithesis of a successful Match. com participant. I’m technically sane but volatile and unstable in several respects, and I balk at a gut level at the whole notion of a contrived, quasi-blind date. The fact that I’m friendly, engaging, both possess and appreciate a robust sense of humor, and am allegedly intelligent only makes things worse, because I make a great first impression that I subsequently prove unable to live up to. At any rate, I expect any adventures I have on this site to end in cataclysmic failure.

One less-than-surprising thing I’ve noticed in viewing the profiles of people I know is that users of these services–and in particular, men–are fond of exaggeration and outright misrepresentation of their skills, assets, strong points, whatever. Now comes someone whose desultory mini-bio reads as if it should be bullshit, but is in fact 100 percent sincere. I have no interest in using the site legitimately, and as a holder of a free account have a lot of limitations on functionality.

What is most entertaining is the idea that people will be directed toward my profile because the things I have posted there render them theoretically compatible with me. Who on a dating site would be a good match for someone who abhors dating sites? I guess it really is an open question.

Anyway.

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  1. #1 by Jim Fiore on October 30, 2009 - 7:19 am

    “I’ve noticed in viewing the profiles of people I know is that users of these services–and in particular, men–are fond of exaggeration and outright misrepresentation”

    Is it knowing exaggeration or self-deception?

  2. #2 by kemibe on October 30, 2009 - 7:24 am

    I figure it’s a mixture of both, as with fundies (are they stupid or are they lying?). Over the years, friends of mine have pointed me toward the dating profiles of people they know, and in most cases, there’s a generous blend of programmed exaggeration and self-delusion.

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